Comments for Root Parenting - Early child development research and insights http://rootparenting.org Early childhood development thoughts and research. Mon, 02 Jul 2012 21:51:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on 5 Reasons Why Time-outs Can Be Harmful To Your Children by ccsicsery http://rootparenting.org/child-timeouts-can-be-harmful/comment-page-1/#comment-772 ccsicsery Mon, 02 Jul 2012 21:51:33 +0000 http://rootparenting.org/2009/04/06/child-timeouts-can-be-harmful/#comment-772 I just think this is another article perpetuated to try the give parents another reason how not to raise or discipline their children. We go from Dr Spock, to anti-hitting and giving kids choices and time-outs to now, no time-outs. I have had 2 kids, both girls and they were completely different, no one parental style worked with both kids. What it really boils down to, is every kid is different, you need to instill right and wrong, and discipline them according to their actions and be age appropriate, without breaking their spirit. But, the parents must educate themselves enough to be disciplined as well. To not treat all kids the same, listen to your child, what they say and don't say (actions) and to have enough insight to be able to change your discipline to work the best for your child and for their age. (what worked yesterday, may not work today). to be intelligent enough to trust yourself, and not fall for the next "fad" parental discipline technique that comes down the pike, just because some PhD in child psychology wants to make a name for themselves. Trust yourself, your intuitions, be open to new things, listen to your kids and don't be fixed on only one way to discipline, children change, so will the ways you'll need to get through to them. I just think this is another article perpetuated to try the give parents another reason how not to raise or discipline their children. We go from Dr Spock, to anti-hitting and giving kids choices and time-outs to now, no time-outs.
I have had 2 kids, both girls and they were completely different, no one parental style worked with both kids.
What it really boils down to, is every kid is different, you need to instill right and wrong, and discipline them according to their actions and be age appropriate, without breaking their spirit.
But, the parents must educate themselves enough to be disciplined as well. To not treat all kids the same, listen to your child, what they say and don’t say (actions) and to have enough insight to be able to change your discipline to work the best for your child and for their age. (what worked yesterday, may not work today). to be intelligent enough to trust yourself, and not fall for the next “fad” parental discipline technique that comes down the pike, just because some PhD in child psychology wants to make a name for themselves.

Trust yourself, your intuitions, be open to new things, listen to your kids and don’t be fixed on only one way to discipline, children change, so will the ways you’ll need to get through to them.

]]> Comment on 15 Things Parents Should Know About Screens by Kirsten http://rootparenting.org/15-things-parents-should-know-about-screen-time/comment-page-1/#comment-711 Kirsten Tue, 29 May 2012 16:40:14 +0000 http://rootparenting.org/?p=1029#comment-711 While I strictly limit screen time in our house, I am not sure about the zero tolerance policy. It's like the kid who's never been allowed to have sugar. When it inevitably makes its way into their lives, they don't know how to self regulate. For an older child, I think a bit of screen-based entertainment is alright. While I strictly limit screen time in our house, I am not sure about the zero tolerance policy. It’s like the kid who’s never been allowed to have sugar. When it inevitably makes its way into their lives, they don’t know how to self regulate. For an older child, I think a bit of screen-based entertainment is alright.

]]> Comment on Gabor Maté on Relationship, Stress and the Village by “To Snip or Not to Snip”: Debate Intensifies Over Proposed Ban on Male Circumcision | Frugivore Magazine http://rootparenting.org/gabor-mate-on-relationship-stress-and-the-village/comment-page-1/#comment-705 “To Snip or Not to Snip”: Debate Intensifies Over Proposed Ban on Male Circumcision | Frugivore Magazine Sun, 20 May 2012 20:36:38 +0000 http://rootparenting.org/?p=402#comment-705 [...] arguments seem convincing, and with new research that is starting to recognize the significance of infant trauma, and how it affects the development [...] [...] arguments seem convincing, and with new research that is starting to recognize the significance of infant trauma, and how it affects the development [...]

]]> Comment on 5 Reasons Why Time-outs Can Be Harmful To Your Children by Nicole http://rootparenting.org/child-timeouts-can-be-harmful/comment-page-1/#comment-700 Nicole Wed, 09 May 2012 01:19:20 +0000 http://rootparenting.org/2009/04/06/child-timeouts-can-be-harmful/#comment-700 I completely agree with this article. Someone mentioned that it will be harder for kids when they grow up in the real world if they haven't learned that there are consequences. This article says nothing about no consequences. And if we teach our children to listen, talk about their feelings and empathize with others, they most likely will grow up to understand the difference between right and wrong and wont have to worry about "adult time out" (jail) And the term "convenience parenting" is not meant to insult. If you are insulted by it, step back and evaluate why. The thing is, attachment parenting is hard work. Its not easy. I believe that it takes a great amount of patience and time. It would be much easier to sit my 4 yr old in a 4 minute time out, spend a moment rehashing and forcing an apology and then sending him on his way to do exactly what he just served time for, but secretly, to avoid time out. I completely agree with this article. Someone mentioned that it will be harder for kids when they grow up in the real world if they haven’t learned that there are consequences. This article says nothing about no consequences. And if we teach our children to listen, talk about their feelings and empathize with others, they most likely will grow up to understand the difference between right and wrong and wont have to worry about “adult time out” (jail)

And the term “convenience parenting” is not meant to insult. If you are insulted by it, step back and evaluate why. The thing is, attachment parenting is hard work. Its not easy. I believe that it takes a great amount of patience and time. It would be much easier to sit my 4 yr old in a 4 minute time out, spend a moment rehashing and forcing an apology and then sending him on his way to do exactly what he just served time for, but secretly, to avoid time out.

]]> Comment on 5 Unique Benefits of Waldorf Education by Jake http://rootparenting.org/5-unique-benefits-of-waldorf-education/comment-page-1/#comment-697 Jake Fri, 04 May 2012 14:40:55 +0000 http://rootparenting.org/?p=794#comment-697 Excellent summation of a Waldorf School. I am one of those Specialty Teachers. I teach music at a public Waldorf Charter school in California. It's a hint different than what you describe, but in large strokes its the same. I'm also a parent of children at our school. As a parent, I love the gentle kindness evoked in my kids, and their eagerness to 'play' at learning. I love that when I ask what they learned today they shrug and say "I dunno...stuff". When I ask what they played with they list off wonderful activities such as science experiments, geometry, handwork, instrument work, foreign language and a host of other fantastic "toys". For those who are skeptical about Anthroposophy, look into it critically. Heck, I'm a Mormon and I teach here! Nobody ever asks Waldorf teachers to believe and practice Anthroposophy, simply to know something about it. And, sure, Steiner said some pretty crazy stuff about the "why" of his pedagogy near the end. That doesn't mean that the "how" is any less diminished. Excellent summation of a Waldorf School. I am one of those Specialty Teachers. I teach music at a public Waldorf Charter school in California. It’s a hint different than what you describe, but in large strokes its the same.

I’m also a parent of children at our school. As a parent, I love the gentle kindness evoked in my kids, and their eagerness to ‘play’ at learning. I love that when I ask what they learned today they shrug and say “I dunno…stuff”. When I ask what they played with they list off wonderful activities such as science experiments, geometry, handwork, instrument work, foreign language and a host of other fantastic “toys”.

For those who are skeptical about Anthroposophy, look into it critically. Heck, I’m a Mormon and I teach here! Nobody ever asks Waldorf teachers to believe and practice Anthroposophy, simply to know something about it. And, sure, Steiner said some pretty crazy stuff about the “why” of his pedagogy near the end. That doesn’t mean that the “how” is any less diminished.

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